Jim Armstrong had a great job, money and snazzy apartment. But it wasn’t until he lost his job that he came to terms with just how empty and unhappy he was. Read the Blog
Lawyer Casey Berman writes, “While many of us view fears as something to overcome, a major element of success and personal development and growth is the realization that these fears never really go away. They are always with us. The secret is not in necessarily extinguishing them, but in mitigating them. Read the Blog
There have been a number of big stories run about lawyer depression and suicide. Read the Blog
Law is often about advocating for imbalance. When you win, somebody usually loses. How can lawyers find balanced happiness in the profession? Read the Blog
Jennifer Alvey blogs that the hardest part of a life change for lawyers, whether it’s their career or other important areas of their life, usually is the waiting. Unfortunately, it’s also very necessary for any big change to occur. Read the Blog
Therese Borchard’s excellent interview with Dr. Norman Rosenthal about his new book which explores how life’s disappointments provide us with the lessons we need to become better, happier and more resilient human beings. Read the Blog
I made a new friend this week.
A lawyer from down south emailed me. He had found me through my website. He told me about some terrible and unexpected turns his life had taken recently which had plummeted him into a major depression.
I e-mailed him back and said that I would like to speak with him by phone.
I learned that his drop into the well of depression wasn’t his first experience with this terrible illness. He had gone through a bad episode twenty-five years ago, but since then nothing until his most recent crash.
During our thirty-minute talk, I felt the rawness of his pain in his voice. I recognized this sound all too well. It was the pain of depression.
He told me that the only respite he felt was when he fell asleep because it was only in this state of unconscious that he had some relief from the grinding wheels of depression.
I also learned that he was married, a father of four and had worked very hard for over twenty-five years as a lawyer. He was a Catholic who prayed often. He felt horrible about the pain and anxiety his depression had caused his wife and children. He told me that he felt comfortable talking with me because I was a lawyer and someone who had been through depression. As we talked, his voice became a little lighter and his tone a bit more optimistic.
I don’t attribute to anything I did.
Instead, I see it more as a testament to this central truth about life on earth: It is in sharing with one another our stories that we heal.
And I believe that we’re all called to be healers of one another.
And in listening to one another’s stories, we learn that suffering doesn’t have the final say.
And in this truth, we find hope.
Check out this summary of Insight Meditation teacher, Sharon Salzberg’s latest book, “Real Happiness at Work.” Read the blog.
From Louis Menand at The New Yorker Magazine, a review of the new book “My Age of Anxiety: Fear, Hope, Dread, and the Search for Peace of Mind” by Scott Stossel. Read the News
I was interviewed for this in-depth report from CNN about the high rates of lawyers with depression who commit suicide. Read the News