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Perfectionism and Depression: Nobody’s Perfect

by Dan

We often mix-up a drive to excel and perfectionism; they’re not the same thing. A drive to be your very best can leads to a sense of self-satisfaction and self-esteem. It feels good to give it all we got. Perfectionism? It’s a horse of a different color. People who feel driven in this direction tend to be more motivated by external forces – such as the desire to please others … read more →

Building Your Depression Toolkit

by Dan

One study found that as many as eighty-percent of all people in this country that suffer from clinical depression don’t get any treatment. Given that depression is the leading cause of disability in the U.S. and that over 20 million people are afflicted with it, that’s a lot of people – about 16 million. However, many of the law students, lawyers and judges with depression that I’ve met tell me … read more →

Judges Struggling With Depression: More Common Than You Think

by Dan

I’ve written a lot on stress, anxiety and depression in the legal profession, but not about the judiciary. There has been much commentary, research and Law Journal articles about what ails law students and attorneys — but not about judges. I guess that’s not surprising.  In my work, I have spoken with scores of judges from all over the country.  It’s a noble, important calling in life.  But it’s also … read more →

18 Tips on How to Start a Depression Support Group

by Dan

I started a depression support group seven years ago. It’s one of the most meaningful things I’ve ever done. We started out with ten people.  It met once a month. Over time, it evolved into every-other week.  We now gather once a week.  I’ve been asked many times about how to start a depression support group.  Here are a few pointers to help you get going. They’re in no particular … read more →

Why It’s Important to Join a Depression Support Group

by Dan

“What can I do to help my depression?” Well, there are many things you go do, really:  therapy, medication, etcetera, etcetera. But one idea you might not have given much thought to: join a depression support group.  There are many benefits.   I have belonged to one for the past seven years. Here are some of my thoughts about why it’s good for you and how to find one. Why It’s … read more →

10 Ways To Recharge Your Law Practice

by Dan

1.         Clean out the junk. It’s easy to let our offices become cluttered: our desk is a mess with on-going or half-digested projects, scattered pens, and things on our to-do list that have been perched on the corner of the desk so long green mold has overtaken them.  Clean it up.  Check out my previous blog, My Desk, My Enemy and The Organized Lawyer for tips on how to improve … read more →

In Therapy With Jerry

by Dan

These days, it’s no big deal to admit you have a therapist. I’ve had the same therapist for seven years.  His name is Jerry.  He’s 74, Italian and grew up in the Bronx.  I see him a few times a month, generally.  In one-hour chunks of time.  Sometimes, I come and there’s doesn’t seem to be much to say about why I started coming there in the first place – … read more →

Watching Geese

by Dan

It’s almost the end of October. I look out my back window and can see the wild geese that gather again in the pond in my back yard this time of the year. It’s a way station before they fly off to warmers climes. People with depression feel less than – less than good, less than successful, less than a loving spouse or parent. Too often, they feel poverty in … read more →

The 25 Paradoxes of Depression

by Dan

1. You loathe the isolation of depression, but you avoid other people. 2. You want help, but you don’t always listen 3. The harder you fight it, the harder it gets 4. As soon as you think you’re well again, bang, it hits your harder than ever. 5. While other’s may see you as happy, successful from the outside, you see yourself as miserable, a loser and helpless 6. You … read more →

Gunslingers: How Lawyers Can Better Handle Stress

by Dan

We avatars of the legal system, we hired guns who ride into town and shoot up saloons, measure our success by the notches on our dusty belts: Did I win or lose? Or, perhaps more accurately, is it: Am I a winner or a loser? There is a thrill about winning and being successful, however we define it — but also a lot of stress. Results, bottom-line bastards that they … read more →

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