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Watching Geese

by Dan

It’s almost the end of October. I look out my back window and can see the wild geese that gather again in the pond in my back yard this time of the year. It’s a way station before they fly off to warmers climes. People with depression feel less than – less than good, less than successful, less than a loving spouse or parent. Too often, they feel poverty in … read more →

The 25 Paradoxes of Depression

by Dan

1. You loathe the isolation of depression, but you avoid other people. 2. You want help, but you don’t always listen 3. The harder you fight it, the harder it gets 4. As soon as you think you’re well again, bang, it hits your harder than ever. 5. While other’s may see you as happy, successful from the outside, you see yourself as miserable, a loser and helpless 6. You … read more →

Gunslingers: How Lawyers Can Better Handle Stress

by Dan

We avatars of the legal system, we hired guns who ride into town and shoot up saloons, measure our success by the notches on our dusty belts: Did I win or lose? Or, perhaps more accurately, is it: Am I a winner or a loser? There is a thrill about winning and being successful, however we define it — but also a lot of stress. Results, bottom-line bastards that they … read more →

Batten Down the Hatches: Surviving a Depression Hurricane

by Dan

I’ve always been fascinated by all sorts of weather calamities. But none holds my attention more than a hurricane. Though I’ve never been in one, I marvel at their power and size; spinning vortexes of  blistering wind manipulated into different colors on The Weather Channel’s satellite video. Many who are struck by major depression feel like they’re in a hurricane. They may have sailed in calm waters for much of … read more →

It’s The Thought That Matters: Depression’s Distorted Thinking

by Dan

I was talking with my best friend, Steve, over some spicy noodles at our favorite Thai restaurant last week. We’ve been chums for the past 17 years.  He’s a Political Science professor at the University at Buffalo here in town.  Steve’s grey beard and glasses make him look like a long-lost relative of Sigmund Freud.  Our lunchtime talks are always illuminating and, frequently, laugh-filled.  Steve has never suffered from depression. … read more →

The Death of Robin Williams, Depression and Suicide

by Dan

Our hearts are broken. This funny, kind and gentle man is gone. He, like the 30,000 other souls that commit suicide each year in this country, was struck down by depression. Many people find it incomprehensible that someone so talented, beloved, good and wealthy could take his own life. One commenter from Fox, Sheppard Smith, (not surprising, I guess) called him a “coward.” What a cowardly thing to say from a … read more →

The Great Depression: Why So Many Lawyers Struggle With Depression

by Dan

Jay Coulter of The Worry Cure podcast show contacted me to talk about my own experiences with depression and explain why so many lawyers struggle. Listen to the interview here.

Dan’s Tips On How To Pass The Bar Exam

by Dan

I’m sure the past six weeks of studying for the bar exam have been grueling, if not punishing for you all. Looking out the window at Starbucks while reading a BarBri outline on Contracts as others stroll by in shorts and flip-flops on their way to a summer’s day of fun and frivolity can make you want to scream, “I have had enough of this. Let’s just get it over … read more →

Summer On My Mind

by Dan

I’m in Ottawa, Canada now. I’m on vacation with my family in this capital of Canada. It’s about a 5-hour drive from Buffalo, my hometown, and I’ve never been here before. It has a European sensibility with historical buildings everywhere. And it’s been hot; steamy, lava-like hot. But having endured yet another merciless Buffalo winter where the bitter cold felt epoxied to my hands and feet, I can’t complain. I’m … read more →

The War In My Father’s Head

by Dan

What a cruel thing is war; to separate and destroy families and friends, and mar the purest joys and happiness God has granted us in this world; to fill our hearts with hatred instead of love for our neighbors and to devastate the fair face of the earth.  – Confederate General Robert E. Lee Depression has many roots. Several of them anchored in the deep soil of our past. I dug … read more →

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