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“I Think I’m Dying”: The Health Collapse That Led to My Most Profitable Year as an Attorney

 

This is a guest post by Sammy Catone, a speaker, coach, best-selling author and a former litigation attorney. Her own health collapse — and full recovery — became the foundation for the neuroscience-based framework she now teaches attorneys, helping them build a life they don’t need to escape from. Sammy speaks at bar associations, law firms, and professional organizations on burnout, nervous system regulation, and using the subconscious mind to reclaim your power. To have Sammy speak at your organization or book a discovery call to explore 1:1 coaching, visit sammycatone.com or email info@sammycatone.com.

“I Think I’m Dying”

At 33 years old, I found myself sitting in my kitchen, looking at my husband in tears and telling him I was going to die. For once, I wasn’t being dramatic.

I had spent eight years building a successful career and climbing the ladder as a litigation attorney. From the outside, it looked like I had it all together. But my mental and physical health told a different story.

My body had given out, losing 25 pounds I could not afford to lose in two months. My heart was under so much stress I couldn’t take out the garbage. I was acutely aware that my organs were starting to fail.

The cruel irony? I had been doing everything “right.”

I obsessively chased wellness and personal development strategies for years — therapy, podcasts, books, a perfected diet, exercise, meditation. And still, my anxiety and physical symptoms persisted, to the point where I would fantasize about jumping out of a moving car. I broke out in hives every time I ate, no matter what it was. My eyes burned and teared every time I walked outside. I had ice pick pain in my knees and brain fog so thick I could barely articulate a sentence. I felt like a stranger trapped inside my own body, desperate to escape.

The Tale of Two Attorneys: A Journey through Loss, Grief, Severe Depression, and Recovery

This powerful post is written by Anne F. Downey, Esq., a former BigLaw lawyer, now recently retired, who reflects on her husband’s sudden death during heart surgery, and the grief, depression, treatment, and recovery that followed. Content Warning:  This post contains discussions of suicidal ideation. Reader discretion is advised. If you or someone you know is struggling or in crisis, help is available. You can call or text 988 to reach the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline (US & Canada), available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. These services are free, confidential, and available to anyone.

I met my husband, Brian, in law school in 1982, and we married shortly after graduation and the bar exam in 1985. We were blessed to adopt two children and, years later, thrilled to become grandparents.

For most of our professional lives, I worked at large law firms, where I made partner, and Brian had a solo general law practice in the suburbs. For a few years, we practiced together as Downey & Downey, but when the kids were grown, I returned to large-firm practice.

On October 16, 2024, at age 64, Brian had heart surgery to replace his aortic valve. The surgical team telephoned my daughter and me in the waiting room about 45 minutes into the surgery, saying they were halfway through, and everything was going well. The surgery should be done in another 45 minutes, and many hours rolled by. Eventually, the surgeon appeared and informed us that Brian’s heart had utterly failed, and Brian was on life support. We entered the room where Brian was on a mini heart/lung machine in an unconscious state.


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